About self-limiting thoughts

When I was a new blogger obsessed with what opportunities everyone else was getting (and what I wasn't getting) I often shared my thoughts about why. I'd whinge on that I must be swearing too much, I was too fat or too old, or too something else for brands to want to work with me. I thought there had to be a reason, but in hindsight I can see the reason is I wasn't ready for what I wanted. (And in hindsight, having a bursting inbox is really not all that it's cracked up to be, but that's a topic for another day).

It takes time - the building of a blog worthy of collaborations - but I was in such a hurry to try to be somewhere else other than where I was. The grass ain't always greener on the other side of the fence. The honest truth is I was putting out self-limiting thoughts about myself into the universe, which doesn't attract good things. No wonder I was frustrated!

I've always held myself apart from other bloggers - not in a way where I thought I was better than them, but in a way in which I was worse or 'less than'. I don't know what has made me act like I've never been enough. I don't know if it was growing up terribly poor and the stigma of that, or growing up fat, a combination of the two, or it's just my personality, but I've always had this 'I'm not woooooooorthy' attitude about myself and my blog in relation to other people and their blogs.

I've talked myself down for so long I don't even know how I came to have an epiphany and realise I've been doing it. I'm writing this in case this hits home with anyone reading. Every single person on this earth is a worthy human being, and as long as you're doing your best at what you do and have a good heart there's no reason why you shouldn't hold your head up high in any field as an equal. I know if I had my time as a new blogger I'd do a lot of things differently, but you only get to make an impact as a new blogger once. I've learned something about myself in the process though, so I have no regrets.

Here's the thing - let people come to their own conclusions about you. Don't try to tell people what to think of you. As the old saying goes, what other people think about you is none of your business. Don't rush in to muse aloud about why you're not getting the things you want out of life. They may not be for you right now and they may never be for you. Unanswered prayers can be a blessing. The things you thought you wanted might not look as shiny close up as they did from a distance.

Our minds can be incredibly powerful tools for self improvement but also the biggest impediment to true greatness. Don't let your brain count you out of the game before you're even in it. Give yourself a chance. Think positively and see what happens. I will be. If I can sum up all I've learned into a nutshell it's this:

Be patient, work hard, be grateful for the things that do go right, and NEVER compare yourself to anyone else or their journey. 

Thanks for reading. Leah xoxo


  1. Wise — and very timely — words. Nice post and lovely writing as always, Christy x

    1. Thanks Christy! I'm glad my words found a home in you. Lots of love. xxxxx