If I could dress James for the day*

If you could dress your partner for the day, would you? If I dressed James for the day I'd be tempted put him in a pinny (and nothing else) and make him be my maid for the day!

When James and I first met he was a young 'un living with his mum and dad (he's almost 7 years younger than me) and his mum was buying most of his clothes. He dressed a lot more conservatively than he does now - he used to wear sports tops, jeans and trainers - and now he's evolved to band t shirts, jeans and boots. If I were to dress him up for the day this is the kind of thing I'd want him to wear.

Yours Clothing Black Drape Pocket Sleeveless Dress

After buying the grey drape pocket dress by Yours Clothing and falling in love with it I checked the website daily for the black one to come into stock. It arrived and it's not the same dress as the grey one, alas. The fabric is a lot thinner, so it hangs lower (hence me layering a top under it) and it's a lot more stretchy. I needn't have sized up with this dress as it's plenty big already. I can barely reach the pockets as it hangs so low on me, but in summer I can wear it bare legged as it comes below my knees. Let's have some more photos, shall we?
These photos were taken in Penhurst near Battle on Saturday, a lovely little 'burb. There's not a whole lot there, but what there is is very pretty. Once the weather warms up some more I look forward to getting out and about a lot more at weekends.
Although the dress is quite thin I still like it a lot as I'm into flowing clothes in plain colours at the moment. Just be aware that it's a bit more revealing than the grey dress due to the fabric being thinner.

I'm wearing:

Yours Clothing Black Drape Pocket Sleeveless Dress
Stripey crop top, past Forever 21+
Biker, past season New Look
Leggings, Very
Bag, past season Peacocks
Hi tops, Everything 5 Pounds

Thanks for reading,
Leah xoxo

Modcloth scotty dog dress

My blogger pal Mookie lent me a couple of Modcloth dresses, and this is the last of the bunch. You can see the one she gave me here and here's the other one she loaned me. I don't think the dress is for sale any more as Mookie's had it at least a year as far as I'm aware. This is a 4x which equates to a size 26/28 UK.

The print is so cute isn't it? I fancied wearing my Frankenstein's monster brooch with it to contrast with the red of the dress.

Although the print is lovely, the dress didn't cinch me in at the waist like the others did. Still, I've been very impressed with the quality of all the Modcloth dresses Mookie lent me. I've since bought one myself. This was $20 in their Stylish Surprise sale and I love it - it's Beetlejuice with added spring flowers! I'll do an outfit post with it soon.

Scotty dog dress, Modcloth
Brooch, Little Pink Kokoro
Leggings, Very (from a twin pack)
Shoes, past New Look

Have you tried anything from Modcloth yet? You can find plus sizes under what they call 'extended sizes' and there's quite a lot of choice. If only customs fees weren't so bad I'd buy from them more often.

Leah xoxo

Articles you need to read #2

Here are some of the articles and things I've enjoyed this week and think you might like, too.

An open letter to women who say "I want my body back"
A love letter from your fat friend.
How I lost my appetite for fat politics (I feel Lesley so hard on this one - I may do a post spurred on by this piece).
Full transcript of interview with Essence Magazine. Kath is awesome. 
A new zine for ladies over a size 22 has been created here.
Click this or this if you don't like Donald Trump.
Click this if you like cute dogs. I hope she has a detached house! :) 

Have you read/seen anything this week I should check out?

Leah xoxo

Yours Clothing split side maxi top take 2

I like the idea of wearing my new items in a couple of different ways in a short space of time. What I've always done in the past is post up one outfit using a new thing then not show it again for months. I always feel I have to rotate things a lot to not bore everyone. I don't know why I put these silly rules on myself! But that's not me. When I get something new I want to wear it all the time in lots of different ways. This is how I bundled up for a walk with James on a really cold day last week. Take one of this top is here.
Yours Clothing black short sleeved maxi top with large side splits
Jason Momoa necklace, Xmas present from Mookie
Snood Primark & touch screen gloves eBay
Jeggings, past Matalan
Boots, past Brantano
Jacket, past New Look
Fringed bag, Xmas present from my mum & step dad

Are you happy to see new takes on an item you've already seen?

Thanks for reading. xoxo

Gorgeous lingerie for the fuller bust from Ms Pomelo*


I've got some glorious underwear to bring you from Ms Pomelo, a lingerie company for the fuller figure. From the moment I opened my box full of beautifully packed underwear I knew Ilona's attention to detail is immense and the bras and pants are full of thoughtful touches.

The first set I have to show you is the Pola Negri set in Creme Brulee. This is a non underwired bra yet it gives me more lift than any other wireless bra I've worn. Normally my boobs look sad and unsupported in wire-free bras, so I'm seriously impressed with the uplift. My boobs could've been hoisted even further aloft if I'd adjusted the straps more. If you live with pain conditions and can't wear underwired bras (or hate hand washing wired bras to keep the wires in) this bra is going to be a definite hit. It's reminiscent of pointed bras from the 50s or even Madonna's conical bra era. I love the retro look and this set would look beautiful with a high waisted retro suspender belt and nude stockings. This is a very comfortable bra, but the size 26 pants were a little less forgiving than in the Etta set below. I love the lace and sheen of this set, as well as the colour. I did this little edit in Picmonkey with Valentines Day in mind.




I really love the colour and style of the Pola Negri, but the Ms Pomelo Etta in Plum made me feel a bit more special. The cups have a padded cotton section inside the cup near the armpits to further support your boobs. This is a really nice touch, and the bra and pants are really comfortable. This was my favourite set of the two. I love the vampy colour and there is a little more uplift than in the Pola Negri, as you would expect from a wired bra. The cups come up high on the chest as you can see, which is a distinct advantage for those with a very full bust as it will keep your boobs in check.



I'm wearing a 44F and size 26 pants in both sets. Both of the bras have a good amount of give - I sometimes have to use a bra extender with new bras until they give a little but there was no need with these bras. The wide straps make for a comfortable wear no matter how heavy your boobs are. Bra wearing can sometimes be an uncomfortable business, especially in summertime, and the cotton lining in these bras is going to be so appreciated when the weather warms up. Bras needn't be uncomfortable, and I think Ms Pomelo is the perfect mix of comfort and style.

Here's some more information about what Ms Pomelo offer.

What Makes Us Different 

•   Our bras deliver on key functionality: they support heavier chests comfortably, all day long.
•   We use small, family-run mills to find beautiful colours and materials and to ensure your pieces are limited edition.
•   They are crafted from the finest materials and lined with cotton. Ms Pomelo bras are breathable and kind to delicate skin.
•   They are durable and can be safely washed in a washing machine.
•   We have styles for all body shapes and occasions; time-tested favourites constructed for today’s lifestyles.
•   We offer a wide range of sizes: 34D–46H, but our sweet spot is 38C plus.
•   Our products are entirely European.
•   We support our communities and donate £1 from every bra we sell to the Pink Ribbon Foundation (Reg. Charity No.1080839) to fight breast cancer.


We run regular workshops in London where we show how to measure bra size and how to achieve a perfect fit for the bra. We also let women try our product and buy it. These last for up to 1 hour, host 5-6 women, and are cosy fun events where women feel camaraderie and enjoy one-on-one attention.
Link: https://mspomelo.com/workshops/

The Ms Pomelo Fit Kit

As an online brand, we want to help make purchasing experience simple. The understand the customer wants to make sure the fit is right, the style flatters her body, and the texture of the material feels good on her skin.

So we created a Fit Kit to help her with the decision.

The Fit Kit is a small pack that contains a tape measure along with instructions to help you accurately determine your Ms Pomelo size. It also includes samples of materials from which the prospective bra would be made.

Benefits to customer: she tries it at her pace and convenience, and establishes her size accurately, using her own knowledge. And it’s free.

Link: https://mspomelo.com/product/fitkit/


We use Interlink Express that delivers next day and lets the customer manage delivery time down to 1-hour window. These are signed-for only packs which allows us to eliminate the risk of loss.

Ms Pomelo's next workshop is on Tuesday, where you can learn how to walk and hold posture like a model. Link here.

What do you think about Ms Pomelo?

Thanks for reading,

*Items supplied by Ms Pomelo. Opinions are honest and my own.

Plus 40 Fabulous February

This month's subject is something that makes us excited or happy. Sometimes the fatigue of ME makes me feel like I have no passions, but a good energy day reminds me that's SO untrue. I have a lot of passions.

My family

I've always been quite close to my family but since my step dad had cancer I think we've pulled together even more. I've vowed to spend one weekend a month in my hometown and I really look forward to it. I had a great time there last month. I also get to see this monkey who is the light of my life (alongside my other niece, who'll be 3 in April). She's wearing my faux fur stole as a hat. :)


It goes without saying that husband face is one of my joys in life, even though he's a bone idle git when it comes to housework. ;) He has a cracking sense of humour and often does silly things to make me laugh like dancing around in his pants or putting his balls on my face when I'm not expecting it. (When would you expect balls in the face?!) What a treasure! He's fab when I have a migraine or need a nap - he tucks me in on the sofa and turns the lights down. He even taps away on the pc quietly when I'm napping. Awww, I love his face.

The people's eyebrow

My friends

I have loads of good people in my life, on and offline. My 2 Rachels (Canada Rach and hometown Rach), Mookie, old school friends I'm still in touch with, and loads of other lovely people on and off my computermabob. There are too many to mention and that means I'm blessed.

My blog

Of course this is a passion or I wouldn't still be doing it. I've met so many lovely people through blogging - both readers and other bloggers - and although at times the pressure of it makes me want to rip my hair out, I honestly can't imagine a life where I don't blog.


A day without music is a day wasted. I love music - it gives me oomph when I have none. I'm a rock/metal chick but I also love my female singers like Sia, Adele, Lady Gaga, Ellie Goulding and Lissie. The last big gig I went to was Bullet For My Valentine and it was great.


I don't have any yet but when we move we're going to rescue a couple of cats. A good walk for me is when I get to stroke cats or dogs. Anyone who knows me well knows I adore animals and children. Most of what I post on Facebook is animal videos. I'm sure people probably think I have shit all to say about myself but at least they get I really like cute critters.


There's a lot of time not doing a lot (or not sleeping a lot) with chronic illness so TV is a big thing. The only soaps I watch are Eastenders and Home and Away, but I love a whole heap of shows. In the last few months I've devoured the Sopranos box set, 2 series of Broadchurch, Dark Matter (SO good!), all series of American Horror Story, Fortitude (it was brilliant!) and probably some more I've forgotten. I'm currently watching The Wire. My favourite show right now is Chicago Fire, with Chicago PD and Chicago Med coming up close. Next on the watchlist will be The X Files, Vikings when it's back, The Walking Dead, and in April, Game of Thrones.

When I feel up to it issues of equality, feminism and of course fat issues are my passions, but I need to be well to devote myself to them and that hasn't really been the case for months. Obviously the way women over 40 are seen is a passion of mine too, and I'm going to do my best to grow old disgracefully as my 2 fingers up to that notion. :)

What are your passions?

Others who may be taking part this month.

Cathy: http://www.southernyacht.blogspot.co.uk/
Christy: http://www.sprintingwithscissors.blogspot.co.uk/
Daisy: http://daisysays.co.uk
Kate: https://wearingmywardrobein2016.wordpress.com
Kath: https://fatheffalump.wordpress.com
Lee: http://www.pinkybellesshed.co.uk/
Mookie: http://www.mookieslife.com/
Nikki :http://www.nattynikki.com/
Perelandra: http://www.pamperandcurves.com/
Sarah: http://www.plussizeproud.co.uk
Steph: http://www.misskittenheel.com
Vicky: http://www.therandomnessoftwee.blogspot.co.uk
Yvonne: http://woosangwashere.blogspot.com

Thanks for reading.
Leah xoxo 

ASOS Curve Floral Gem Crop Top

I bought this crop top last summer from ASOS Curve and I only recently got around to wearing it. It has diamonds and flowers printed on it, a couple of a girl's best friends. You might be able to pick one up on eBay. Actually, everything in this outfit is past season.

I still can't get enough of crop tops. The ASOS ones are a little too short for me - I'd prefer a little more length at the back to encompass my back squidge - but I've worn my skirt up a little higher to compensate.

I'm wearing:

Necklace, blog sale
Crop top, past season ASOS Curve
Skirt, past season Yours Clothing
Shoes, past season Very

The lipstick is Serpent by Makeup Revolution if anyone is interested.

If you want to wear crop tops but aren't comfortable doing so in public just yet, ease into it gently. Knot a t shirt at the front or side to expose just a hint of skin, or wear a kimono over the top of a proper crop top. I've been out wearing crop tops several times now, and trust me, no one bats an eyelid. And if someone did stare or say something, so what? It's a couple of inches of exposed flesh on a fat person. Anyone who's threatened or offended by that is a pillock, and who cares what pillocks think? I only care about the opinions of people I like. Everyone else can go sit on a cactus.

I've been trying to do different poses in my photos recently. I look like a fool in some of them but at least I have a good giggle when I look back through my photos. :) I've tried doing that arch-fashionista death stare down the lens (which some people do so well and look so glorious doing) but it feels wrong on me. My resting bitch face has too much bitch in it, lololol. I've also taken a few sets of outfit photos out and about recently and look forward to doing that more now the days are getting longer. I've seen more than enough of that wall unit behind me - I want to replace it with one of these, but there's no point doing it until we move. Spring will be here soon, and that'll mean more walks and more opportunities to take photos outside - and less of that wall unit. ;)

Have a great week.
Leah xoxo

Yours Clothing Black Short Sleeve Maxi Top With Large Side Splits

Another thing I bought in my recent Yours Clothing order was this maxi top with long side splits. I'm really drawn to plain colours rather than patterns at the moment. I haven't got a lot of clothes on in this look, but I've also taken photos of it wearing a little more which I'll share another time. Sometimes I just want to hang out half dressed. ;)

Yours Clothing Black Short Sleeve Plus Size Maxi Top With Large Side Splits
God, I can't wait to move! The carpets are so threadbare.

Just Me Leah purple make up and shaved undercut

Yours Clothing Black Short Sleeve Plus Size Maxi Top With Large Side Splits 4

Yours Clothing Black Short Sleeve Plus Size Maxi Top With Large Side Splits 5

The top is lovely - soft, flowing and very stretchy. I'm wearing a size 26/28. It also comes in wine, khaki and grey and I think wine is calling to me! (Hahaha, in more ways than one!) This top will look great over so many things - leggings, jeggings, jeans or tights. I would wear this outside with thick tights on, and on holiday abroad somewhere hot I think I would wear it like this bare legged. It's a bit too brrrrrr over here to flash the flesh for a lot of the year.

Trinkets Jewellery 'Real Women' Campaign

Just Me Leah Plus Size Alternative Blogger undercut purple makeup

Yours Clothing Black Short Sleeve Plus Size Maxi Top With Large Side Splits 6

Yours Clothing Black Short Sleeve Plus Size Maxi Top With Large Side Splits 7

You know what? Every woman has a bit of cellulite, and I don't mind mine at all. It's a bit of texture, that's all. It can look better or worse depending on lighting, hydration or the amount of exercise I'm getting, but it's a normal part of being a woman. I've never had a fella see me with my kit off and say 'Oh no, I can't possibly shag you, you've got a bit of cellulite!' It has never happened, and if it had I would've laughed at them and buggered off. Don't let a bit of jiggle put you off getting your sexy on, especially with Valentines Day today. Go forth and get your shag on (even if it's with yourself - self love is the most enduring love, after all!)

I've made a decision to show more of me on this blog (even though it may mean more unwanted attention from men) because I'm on a mission to normalise bodies, and since this is the only one I've got, it's comin' at ya! I've been taking photos at 'unflattering' angles, like sitting down with my big ol' belly scrunched up bigger than my boobs, from the side with my big ol' broken nose in profile, of my double chins, and all kinds of other bits of myself that I've instinctively been hiding. Well, I haven't been hiding them as such, but not thinking to include them, which is kinda the same thing, I guess? So expect more of me, and not just pretty, flattering angles. That whole 'acceptable fatness' thing needs to die harder than Bruce Willis in a filthy white vest (swoon!)

I'm wearing:

Yours Clothing Black Short Sleeve Maxi Top With Large Side Splits
Yours Clothing boy shorts
Boots, past season New Look
Belt, past season ASOS Curve
Elongated Etched Metal Necklace, Trinkets Jewellery*

I'm part of Trinkets Jewellery's selfie campaign, read more here. She wants women of all shapes and sizes to be a part of her website and to model her lovely necklaces. She has oodles of gorgeous jewellery and she's based in Ireland.

Thanks for reading.
Leah xoxo

Outfit | Wingz and 25% discount code*

Hello lovelies,

Don't fall out of your chairs or anything, but I'm wearing a couple of new bits. I bought myself a comfy dress from Yours and I was sent some Wingz. I thought I'd try them with this dress and they look great.

So, the dress is sleeveless and Wingz are arm covers so you can wear sleeveless dresses/tops all year round. Here's a photo from the website so you can see how they fit under the bra. The sleeves are soft stretch lace and the part that goes under your bra is really stretchy and elasticated for a great fit. They come in sizes 0-3 and I'm wearing size 3, the biggest. They have loads of different designs with both fitted and baggy sleeves. I love the full length black lace ones too. I think I'm going to get a lot of wear out of these as I often wear a lace cardi in summer to cover my arms up but now I can wear these.

I shaved the side of my head the other day. I've had it done it before, but not for a long time. I love it and am tempted to do the other side! I also felt like doing some wild makeup, so I did. Sometimes I want to be all fairy princess in a pretty dress with pretty hair, and other times I want to be like Tank Girl in shit-kicking boots and ugly lipstick.

Here's a photo of the dress without the Wingz on.

Wingz have given me a lovely discount code for you. Use 'leah' for 25% off.

I'm wearing:

Stretch Lace Wingz 3/4 Length Sleeve Black
Dark Grey Marl Drape Pocket Sleeveless Dress 
Boots, past season New Look
Necklace, eBay

The dress is so lovely, so comfortable. I realised at the tail end of last year that I had a surplus of pretty dresses and loads of things with prints on, but very little plain, comfy clothes. When I was at the worst of my depression last year I'd look at all the fancy clothes in my wardrobe and shut the door defeated. I had nothing to put on on days where I needed to be swaddled in functional, cosy clothes. This dress is one of those items. It also comes in black, and if it comes back into stock I'm going to get that too. If they brought it out in 10 colours I'd probably buy them all. In winter I can wear Wingz or a long sleeved cotton top underneath, and in summer I'll wear it easy breezy. It's slightly swing in style being much bigger around the hips than the bust (great for pear shapes) and I sized up to a 30/32 as I do love my oversized comfies.

Thanks for reading,
Leah xoxo

P.S. I'm having a new blog design installed soon, a much more minimalist one. You may even see it before I do, since I'm so nocturnal these days. Let me know what you think of it when it changes over.

*Item sent by Wingz. Opinions are honest and my own.